The old saying ‘Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.’ We grew up hearing it and I never really agreed with it. It was used to defend against hateful bullies or people just trying to hurt you or get a rise out of you. In truth, many of those words I still remember today. The hateful things said in anger by parents or loved ones. The times I lost my temper and said something I regretted. The truth is those words were so much more powerful than a stick and they shaped my entire life. I know they had an effect on me and the people around me. I recently started reading a short book but it was so powerful I wanted to jot down a few paragraphs about it. We have talked and learned about mindsets, abundance, how your focus is what draws reality to you.
In this book Miguel discusses the four agreements you make and hence the name, The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz, check it out in print or digital I am really enjoying it so far.
The first agreement discusses The Word and he eloquently puts it into a short story what is so hard to explain about how we grow up and our surroundings influence us. You don’t realize how you are formed as a person and made into what you are, but is that who you are? Or just what the people surrounding us have taught us to be? I have it on audiobook and will definitely have to listen to the first part again and again. It resonated so much with what I believe and have a hard time explaining to people. If you can recognize and even question your upbringing you can dig yourself out of those preconceived notions, barriers, glass ceilings, generational strife and much more. You can create something of beauty.
Have you met the person who does not think they are rude, they are just honest or a person who agrees everyone is equal, except those people who just are not able to understand things like us. You are shaped by your environment, teachers, parents, friends and a big culprit: rumors/gossip.
People will say things, however outrageous and it goes in your ears, your mind may absorb it at face value, as the truth. You may even spread those words to others like a disease. I have met well educated people that believe total nonsense, yet I think it nonsense based only on what I have learned in this life, so who is to say which is right or wrong. Hate and love are created by the word and one miss-phrase to someone has the ability to change an entire persons day or even life. If you accept that agreement of what was said it can effect you in ways you don’t even realize.
The word can create or destroy things, placing people in a living hell on earth or a blissful life. Recognizing the words of others and how they can have an effect on you. Just by learning this first aspect of life you have the ability to change everything around you. Either living in a self created misery or your own heaven on earth.
I remember as a parent not allowing my children to say ‘this is impossible’ or ‘I can’t do this, it’s to hard’. Those words have power and can lead a child down a never ending path of failure. Instead learn how smart you are, how failures are lessons to help us learn more, how you are loved and how to love yourself. Be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished. Something so small to you is a mountain to another person, be proud of those little things.
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